Penetrative sex - Beyond Intercourse

Penetration can be a pleasurable sexual activity for women and men of all sexualities. Whether you are a size queen or prefer something more slender, D.VICE has a something for you.

About dildos

A dildo is a solid object that is designed for either vaginal or anal penetration. The difference between a dildo and a vibrator is that a dildo doesn't usually vibrate, and it usually has a flared base so it is easy to use by hand or to strap into a harness. A silicone dildo is safe for anal penetration.

Dildos are the oldest known sex toy/ Historically there are records of dildos in many cultures made from stone, wood, marble or leather. In modern times they are made from various materials including silicone, latex (not recommended), cyberskin, acrylic and glass.

Dildos may be representational (shaped like a penis) or sculptured in a variety of shapes. We recommend silicone dildos, because they are non-porous, safe, easy to clean and warm to body temperature when being used. In the search for beautiful, practical, stimulating designs, we decided to make our own silicone toys, and all D.VICE silicone dildos have a 10 year guarantee against faults.

Dildos may be used solo or with a partner and by women and men of all sexualities. They can be hand-held or strapped into a front sitting or thigh harness for a hands-free experience.

Who would use a dildo?

The common misconception is that only lesbians use dildos. In fact we sell most of our dildos and harnesses to straight singles and couples. Dildos and harnesses are:

• Used by people of all sexualities and ages.
Excellent for self-penetrative pleasure for women and men. Women often combine their dildo with a vibrator for clitoral stimulation. Men and women can use their harness to strap their dildo to a chair, bedhead and many other things for ride-on fun.Perfect for women to pleasure another women and/or man.Fantastic for men to use if he is spent or impotent or for double penetration/
• Great for people with limited use of their bodies and for the disabled.

Why use a dildo?

Dildos allow a different experience of penetration that can be focused on the receptive person's pleasure rather than the penetrator's. Strap on play allows and encourages a variety of positions and sensations. With dildos and harnesses it is possible to give oral stimulation (for both women and men) at the same time as penetration.

When you use a dildo you have your choice of size and shape, and they stay hard for ever (which takes the pressure off men). Dildos allow you to have double penetration without introducing another sexual partner.

Strapping it on

• Strapping a dildo on allows for hands free action.
Harnesses are usually made from leather, webbing or vinyl.Women can strap on to pleasure another women or a man anally. Many men find it arousing to be the receptive partner. Many women find it very arousing to be the insertive partner.Men can strap on over their flaccid penis either after ejaculation or prior to erection.Men can strap on above their erect penis for double penetration.Use a thigh harness as an alternative to the traditional front harness. They are great for prolonged action, excellent for people with limited use of the lower body, and encourage you to try positions that are simply not possible with a traditional harness or with conventional intercourse.

Tips for penetration

• Use lubricant! It makes things more pleasurable by enhancing sensation. It also means you can have harder and faster penetration for longer, and lubricant is essential for safe sex and anal sex.
Make sure the receptive person is fully aroused before penetration. For anal sex stimulate the anus externally to relax muscles.Communicate - let your lover know what feels good to you, and ask questions so that you can feel confident that you are doing the right things.Be aware of the receptive person's pleasure.Combine either clitoral or anal stimulation with penetration - it feels great!
• Practice penetration that is just for the receptive persons pleasure (a dildo is great for this).
Experiment with a vibrating cockring. These can be used on a dildo as well.Make penetration a treat for both of you.Choose positions that are comfortable for both of you.

5 most popular positions for pleasurable penetration

Out of apparently 600 potential positions for penetration or intercourse these 5 are the most commonly practiced. They can apply to either vaginal or anal penetration, either with a penis or a dildo.

Missionary

• Declared by the church as the normal, godly position to have sex in.
Said to be named by the South sea islanders who spied on the missionaries and were amused to see that they used just one position.The most common position in the Western world.Being reclaimed//.Often facing each other can be intimate, allows for kissing, eye contact and easy communication.May be more comfortable if pillows are placed under the receptive person's pelvis. For deeper penetration bend the knees right back.This is the best position for anal penetration and G-spot stimulation for men.The insertive partner has more control in this position so make sure the receptive partner(s) feel empowered or has some control.

Receptive person on top

• Either facing front or backwards.
This gives more control to the receptive partner - they can control depth of penetration, angle and speed. This is excellent for anal sex.Visually a great position for the penetrative partner.Easy to achieve clitoral stimulation in this position.It is the best position when using vibrating cockrings.Lean back or forward for G-spot stimulation.

Rear entry or doggie style

• Allows for deep penetration.
Is easy to stimulate the clitoris or penis.Is great for fantasy.Is best for female G-spot stimulation.

Face to face while sitting or kneeling

• Facing each other allows for intimacy, eye contact and kissing.
Very comfortable.Allows you both to move, creating a slower grinding sensation instead of just the penetrative partner thrusting.

Side by side

• Either from behind or facing each other with legs in X position.
This is intimate, and great if you are feeling tired or unwell.The best position during pregnancy.Good for premature ejaculators.Good if you want less depth of penetration.Can be good for G-spot stimulation.Empowering for both partners.

Swings and slings can be fantastic for penetrative sex, as the receptive partner is suspended and comfortable. Also, the swinging motion reduces the need for active thrusting.